Waking Down vs. Waking Up!

Waking Up, Enlightenment, Satori, Nirvana…all names for the ultimate experience of breaking free from the illusion of a separate self and knowing our selves as “One with All That Is.’ Whether we call that God/Goddess, Consciousness, or Universal Oneness, many spiritual traditions have a description of the process of “waking up” and the end result. For the most part, though, the descriptions of “waking up” entail transcending the limitations of the body, mind and ego…our seeming human limitations.

As an 18 year old growing up in Berkeley, I was more than familiar with transcending the body and my human limitations…usually through the use of controlled substances! When my 12th grade English teacher told our class that by using Transcendental Meditation she didn’t require Novocain during dental work, my attention was piqued. After being initiated in “TM” the following year, I found that within a few minutes, I could easily transcend the experience of bodily awareness…and all without drugs!

Eventually, as I continued my study of Eastern religions, I started to feel a fundamental split or schism embodied in the oft-repeated mantra “I have a body, but I’m not my body.” Whether it was the message that one should transcend the “lower” chakras and hang out in the “higher” centers of consciousness or admonitions that sex and spirituality didn’t really belong together, the message was clear…if you want to be spiritual you have to transcend the messy aspects of the body: desire, sex, mind & emotions.

This split between Spirit and Matter was not new news, however….just ask Eve! The Fall from Grace of Adam and Eve represents the beginning of this fundamental split. At the core of the split is the question of how do we live as spiritual beings having an individual, and seemingly separate, limited human experience?

Fortunately, throughout the world, there has always been another worldview that sees Spirit as immanent or coexisting with the material world. Although shunned and repressed by Orthodox religions as blasphemy, this immanent view of Spirit interpenetrating Matter can be found in indigenous, shamanic and pagan cultures on every continent.

The immanent worldview then, is what we could describe as “waking down” vs “waking up.” In waking down we see the beauty and sacredness in all of our human experiences. Instead of repressing our human limitations to conform to a transcendent ideal, we embrace our humanness as a vital aspect of our divinity. Carl Jung once said, “whatever we resist, persists.” If we resist or repress our humanity…our perceived human limitations, we also resist the immanent aspect of the Divine that can touch, interpenetrate and transform our lives.

In this case resistance is futile as it inevitably leads to suffering and the perception of separation and limitation. It is indeed a paradox that only by truly embracing our humanity…our human limitations, can we actually transcend them. In this case transcendence happens through total acceptance of who we are, not through repression of that which does not conform with a “spiritual” ideal.

One might say that waking down is the “new” waking up and it’s available to anyone, regardless of religious affiliation or spiritual belief, who is willing to embrace their humanness with acceptance and love.

Copyright 2011 – James Jarvis, M.A.

Dancing On the Edge of Surrender

For many of us surrender is a foreign concept compared to our experience of the dynamic use of will. The use of will is what most of us know, love and depend on…that sense of individual identity, dynamic energy and effort that “makes things happen” for us in life. We trust that if we engage our strong will in times of crisis, we will triumph and be victorious. The use of our individual will suggests that we are taking action, initiative and courageously moving in the direction of our goals.

Surrender, at least at first glance, seems like just the opposite. To the ego especially, surrender seems more like a passive state where we are “out of control” of our direction and destiny. To many, surrender suggests that we are just passively waiting for something outside of ourselves to “move us into action.” Consequently, for many people, there doesn’t seem like there is any power in surrender because there’s not anything for the ego to do, accomplish or to take ownership for!

When will and surrender are viewed from a larger vantage point, though, there is no polarity. Both contribute equally to the whole through the complimentary action of dynamic and receptive or yang and yin energies. A good example is Tai Chi. Although Tai Chi is an internal martial art (yin) it is not a passive exercise. While most exercise dissipates energy, Tai Chi actually accumulates energy leaving you feeling refreshed when you finish. In Tai Chi, as in surrender, we align our individual will (usually associated with the body) with the flow of universal life force energy or chi around us. This alignment allows the opening movement of Tai Chi, for example, to be animated by the chi and not just individual effort alone.

With this mindset, surrender becomes a very powerful way to “be” in the world. Letting go of the fear of not being in control, we can open to receive the support of unseen forces in our lives. Surrender helps us move into that often uncomfortable realm for the ego of “that which we do not know.” Surrender helps us release the feeling of a separate self or ego who is charge of “making everything happen” as well. As we surrender we are opening our selves to “higher” and “deeper” guidance, inspiration and empowerment.

An example that I like to use to demonstrate the “act of surrendering” is my experience of roller blading. When I haven’t bladed in a while I am most certainly not in a state of surrender when I take my first step. What I often experience at first is resistance, which usually shows up as a fear of falling or even worse…looking bad! After a while, though, that fear starts to subside particularly when I start to notice the reassuring feeling of gliding. The feeling of gliding comes as I let go of the fear of falling and surrender into the experience of grace, and flow in the moment, or what an outside observer might label as “grace-full-ness.”

Dancing on the edge of surrender brings that sense of flow and “grace-full-ness” along with tremendous dynamism into our lives. As we step into the unknown, our individual sense of will is not annihilated, or passive. Rather, when we bring our fully “embodied experience” or energy into the present moment and surrender the results of our efforts, we tap into the deep and profound power of the universe that is always flowing through us. What this dance requires, though, is that we let go of the ego’s notion that we always have to be in control and know exactly what is coming next. Fortunately…when we truly surrender, our will is totally engaged (active) but our ego isn’t. Now that’s a great place to dance from…

Copyright 2011 by James Jarvis, M.A.

Are You Ready for Change?

Over the 25 years of working as an astrologer, coach and counselor, I’ve noticed that deep within each of my clients has been the desire for change or the longing to be more fully self-expressive. Sometimes that longing for change has been covered over by fear of the unknown, fear of failure or even fear of success. Deeper than the fears or the external motivation of outer success, though, lies the desire for change which is the soul’s method for moving us forward in life.

Many people are not in touch with this deep desire but experience the symptoms of “not changing” instead. This could show up as feelings of boredom, apathy, depression, hopelessness or resignation. Although we may not know what’s going on below these feelings or symptoms sometimes, they definitely get our attention!

Once they have our attention, we can bring awareness to the feelings that are coming up. To effectively change our lives, we have to address three different levels of consciousness. First, we have to honor whatever is coming into our field of awareness without suppression or judgment. Bringing awareness to whatever we are experiencing brings whatever is holding us back out of the unconscious and into the light.

Once we bring our awareness to what is occurring on the unconscious level, then we have the opportunity of choice. Choice in this case means identifying the true source of pain or suffering (usually the mind!) and seeing that the limited thoughts we might be having are not truly who we are. The second step, then, is the process of dis-identifying or piercing through our own illusion of a separate or limited self.

The third step, which often occurs at the same time, is to create a compelling vision of where we want to go. One of my teachers says: “Pain pushes until vision pulls.” Without a clear vision of where you want to go, change can’t really happen. When we honor and address the false assumptions that keep us from changing and create a compelling vision of what we really want to create, then we can start to move forward in our lives with purpose and passion.

Copyright 2011 by James Jarvis, M.A.

Becoming Aware of Your Zone of Genius

Often times, we are not even aware of our zone of genius. We might have special skills and abilities that we contribute in our work but that are not actually part of our job description. For example, one of my career coaching clients was an IT specialist but was acting as an ad-hoc project manager, even though he wasn’t being paid for it. When he got clear on his “zone of genius” (the intrinsic value that he adds to any work situation), he signed up for a project manager certification program so that he start doing more of his “zone of genius” and make a lot more money too!
Self-limiting Beliefs and Fear
What keeps us from moving into our zone of genius are self-limiting beliefs and the fear of moving out of our comfort zone. One of the biggest beliefs and fears I hear from clients about shifting the direction of their lives is around money. Many of us grew up with parents who focused on what was practical and safe. Often our creative, visionary and inspirational energies were put on the back burner so we could ” take care of business” and be practical. Now, when we discover our “zone of genius,” it may seem too risky, impractical or to far fetched to pursue. These fears and beliefs are all signs of our upper-limits; in other words, how good can we really stand it to be?

Copyright 2011 by James Jarvis, M.A.


Breaking Through Your Upper Limits!

A lot of clients come to me with the desire to radically change the direction of their lives and careers. Most of them want to be doing work that has more meaning or gives them more opportunities for creative expression. The challenge that comes up most often, though, is that taking a new direction in life requires that we uncover self-limiting or upper limit beliefs that prevent us from taking a big leap in our lives.

Moving Beyond Competence & Excellence to Genius
Gay Hendricks, in his book, “The Big Leap,” writes about how this shift requires moving from our zone of competence or excellence (what we’re comfortable doing) to our “zone of genius,” where our unique gifts and talents are expressed. Gay gives an example of Bonnie Raitt who was an excellent blues singer playing in blues clubs and selling a modest amount of albums. When she started hearing and writing songs outside the blues, she took the big leap by releasing an album unlike any that she had done before. In a short time she went from excellent blues musician to a grammy award winning, stadium filling superstar!

Making a Greater Contribution
By discovering our “zone of genius,” we tap into a well-spring of creativity, passion, purpose and power! When we live our “zone of genius” we have more energy, feel more empowered, and make a greater contribution in all areas of our lives. I’d highly recommend you get a copy of Gay’s book  and get started on the path of discovering your own zone of genius and breaking through the upper limits to your success!

Copyright 2011 James Jarvis, M.A.

Blocks To Understanding Life Purpose

The biggest block to understanding life purpose is confusion. When the mind tries to figure out something that can’t be figured out by the mind, it shuts down and goes into confusion or doubt. Confusion is actually not a bad place to be if you surrender to it. The reason being is that during confusion, the ego is rendered useless! This enables you to explore new pathways that are outside your normal patterns of thinking.

The second block, as I hinted at, is over emphasis on rationality, critical thinking and planning. No matter how hard we try, the mind can never come up with a scenario as grand as Spirit can for us! The over emphasis on rational thinking also shuts down our connection with our inner knowing which often comes through intuitive, kinesthetic or gut level awareness.

 

Copyright 2011 James Jarvis, M.A.

Dharma: The Primary Purpose Of Life

In the Vedic tradition of India there are four primary aims of life: dharma (life purpose), artha (wealth), kama (happiness & pleasure) and moksha (liberation.) In this post I’ll focus on dharma, which is the guiding light for the other three aims. If we are in tune with our dharma, sometimes translated as ‘right way of living’, appropriate action, ‘proper conduct’, ‘duty’ or ‘righteousness’, then the other aims naturally unfold.
For example, many of my clients experience that when they are doing work in the world that speaks to a “higher calling” they feel more satisfied and less driven by the needs of the ego. When we take action in the world based on dharma, there is less need for the ego to try and run the show. Actions taken that are aligned with dharma don’t require strong will. Instead, they require that we let go of attachment to outcome and surrender our individual will to a higher cause.

The challenging thing about dharma is that it can’t be figured out by the mind! In fact, using the mind to try and figure out your life purpose is often times counter-productive. The mind is focused on answering the questions of how, what, why, where and when. When we are in our heads, we are often driven by fear, worry and survival. Discovering your true purpose requires that we surrender the limited mind or ego to access the deeper knowing of the soul.

Copyright 2011 by James Jarvis, M.A.

How Do You Recognize Your Life Purpose?

First, look for elements of flow & synchronicity in your life. For example, when I first visited Boulder, CO a few years ago, I wanted a sign that this was the right place for me to move. Within twenty minutes of walking on Boulder Creek I met three people, including one of my best male friends there and fellow musician, an old friend from Washington State, and a new friend from Mile High Science of Mind Church. In other words, trust the flow!
Second, surrender mental planning! This may include the need to know all the details before you take action. It may also mean letting go of your personal idea of what “should” happen. Another aspect of this is releasing control and attachment to outcome. Knowing that things don’t always go as planned, just look for flow – opening doors, etc. Remember, God is driving the bus but we can help steer!
Third, recognize that feeling good is a signal from your body that you are on the right track! When we are in the flow, we have more energy available to us. When we’re not open and receptive, we crimp off the flow of our aliveness. Check in with how you are feeling to see whether you are in the flow or not.
Lastly, think of life purpose as something very close to you, something you don’t have to search for. As you tune into and do what gives you happiness and joy, you will gain greater clarity about your purpose. The challenge, is that discovering your purpose often doesn’t make sense, particularly to the mind!  As you are exploring your purpose, give your mind a break! You can always let it know that you’ll bring it in later to refine, clarify and codify your intuitive knowing. That way, you’ll get a needed break and your mind will be able to look forward to hours of doing what it really loves to do! 

© 2011  James Jarvis, M.A.